1 00:00:01,600 --> 00:00:03,667 [TV playing] 2 00:00:03,700 --> 00:00:04,667 [turns off TV] 3 00:00:04,700 --> 00:00:05,633 - WHAT? 4 00:00:05,667 --> 00:00:07,200 - RAY, COULD YOU GET UP AND HELP ME, PLEASE? 5 00:00:07,233 --> 00:00:09,633 WE GOTTA SHAMPOO THE RUG BEFORE THEY COME OVER TONIGHT. 6 00:00:09,667 --> 00:00:11,867 - SHAMPOO THE RUG? 7 00:00:11,900 --> 00:00:12,700 IT'S BERNIE AND LINDA. 8 00:00:12,733 --> 00:00:15,600 I'M NOT EVEN GONNA SHAMPOO MYSELF. 9 00:00:15,633 --> 00:00:17,533 - WELL, WHEN THEY PASS OUT FROM YOUR SMELL, 10 00:00:17,567 --> 00:00:20,967 I WANT THEM TO LAND ON A CLEAN RUG, OKAY? 11 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:22,067 COME ON, GET UP. LET'S GO. 12 00:00:22,100 --> 00:00:23,133 - COME ON, I'M TIRED. 13 00:00:23,167 --> 00:00:24,400 I DROVE THE KIDS TO ALL THEIR CRAP. 14 00:00:24,433 --> 00:00:26,233 I'D LIKE TO SIT DOWN FOR A LITTLE WHILE. 15 00:00:26,267 --> 00:00:28,633 - WELL, ME TOO. COME ON! 16 00:00:28,667 --> 00:00:30,900 - OW! WHY DO YOU ALWAYS DO THIS, HUH? 17 00:00:30,933 --> 00:00:32,233 EVERY TIME WE HAVE PEOPLE OVER, 18 00:00:32,267 --> 00:00:35,167 WE SPEND ALL DAY MAKING THE FAKE HOUSE. 19 00:00:35,200 --> 00:00:36,367 - IT'S NOT FAKE. 20 00:00:36,400 --> 00:00:38,667 IT'S THE WAY THE HOUSE SHOULD BE ALL THE TIME. 21 00:00:38,700 --> 00:00:41,833 - YES, BUT IT ISN'T, SO ACTUALLY IT'S LIKE LYING, HUH, RIGHT? 22 00:00:41,867 --> 00:00:44,933 IS THAT WHAT YOU'RE ABOUT, LYING TO PEOPLE? 23 00:00:44,967 --> 00:00:47,833 - COULD YOU JUST START CLEARING EVERYTHING OFF THE RUG, PLEASE? 24 00:00:47,867 --> 00:00:49,300 - I REALLY DON'T SEE THE NEED. 25 00:00:49,333 --> 00:00:52,200 - RAY, I SAID HELP ME! 26 00:00:52,233 --> 00:00:55,033 - I DON'T SEE THE NEED! 27 00:00:59,500 --> 00:01:02,500 - SO YOU'RE JUST GONNA SIT THERE WHILE I DO ALL THE WORK? 28 00:01:02,533 --> 00:01:04,333 - I HAD THE KIDS THE WHOLE MORNING! 29 00:01:04,367 --> 00:01:06,200 - BECAUSE I WAS CLEANING! 30 00:01:06,233 --> 00:01:09,000 - WELL, STOP IT ALREADY! 31 00:01:09,033 --> 00:01:12,300 - RAY, SERIOUSLY, GET UP AND HELP ME. 32 00:01:12,333 --> 00:01:13,300 - NO. - GET UP. 33 00:01:13,333 --> 00:01:14,567 - NO. - RAY. 34 00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:16,533 - LISTEN, YOU KNOW WHAT YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND? 35 00:01:16,567 --> 00:01:18,433 I WORK HARD ALL DAY. I GOT A LOT OF STRESS. 36 00:01:18,467 --> 00:01:19,900 I COME HOME AND I'M-- 37 00:01:19,933 --> 00:01:22,467 [turns on vacuum] 38 00:01:22,500 --> 00:01:24,333 [turns on TV] 39 00:01:27,667 --> 00:01:30,033 OH, YEAH! 40 00:01:31,133 --> 00:01:34,033 HA HA HA! 41 00:01:34,067 --> 00:01:36,200 YEAH! 42 00:02:03,500 --> 00:02:05,733 - WOW, DEBRA, WHAT A MEAL. 43 00:02:05,767 --> 00:02:06,800 - YEAH, GREAT DINNER, DEB. 44 00:02:06,833 --> 00:02:11,500 - LOUDER, SO THEY CAN HEAR IT ACROSS THE STREET. 45 00:02:11,533 --> 00:02:13,233 - HOW ABOUT THAT RUG? CLEAN, THOUGH, HUH? 46 00:02:13,267 --> 00:02:16,100 THAT'S THE MOST IMPORTANT THING. 47 00:02:16,133 --> 00:02:18,567 - WELL, IT'S GREAT TO FINALLY SEE YOU GUYS. 48 00:02:18,600 --> 00:02:20,500 - YEAH, I KNOW. IT'S BEEN SO LONG. 49 00:02:20,533 --> 00:02:21,867 - WE'RE STUCK AT HOME A LOT. 50 00:02:21,900 --> 00:02:25,400 BENJAMIN BURNS THROUGH BABY SITTERS PRETTY QUICK. 51 00:02:25,433 --> 00:02:27,567 - YOU KNOW, HE'S JUST-- HE'S SPIRITED. 52 00:02:32,000 --> 00:02:33,633 - I'M AFRAID OF HIM. 53 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:37,867 - OH, BERNIE, DON'T EXAGGERATE. 54 00:02:37,900 --> 00:02:40,067 - I'M NOT EXAGGERATING. 55 00:02:41,533 --> 00:02:43,500 YOU SEE, YOU MINIMIZE MY FEELINGS. 56 00:02:43,533 --> 00:02:45,600 THIS IS WHAT PAMELA WAS TALKING ABOUT. 57 00:02:45,633 --> 00:02:47,000 - YOU KNOW WHAT? YOU'RE RIGHT. 58 00:02:47,033 --> 00:02:49,167 I'M SORRY. I'M SORRY. 59 00:02:53,633 --> 00:02:54,900 - WHO'S PAMELA? 60 00:02:54,933 --> 00:02:56,900 - OH, OUR THERAPIST. 61 00:02:56,933 --> 00:02:58,233 - THERAPIST? 62 00:02:58,267 --> 00:03:00,567 WHAT, YOU MEAN LIKE A MARRIAGE COUNSELOR? 63 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:02,567 - YEAH, WE'VE BEEN GOING FOR ABOUT A MONTH NOW. 64 00:03:02,600 --> 00:03:04,333 WE REALLY HAD TO DO SOMETHING. 65 00:03:04,367 --> 00:03:07,033 WE WERE STARTING TO FIGHT A LOT. 66 00:03:12,367 --> 00:03:13,567 - HUH. 67 00:03:14,333 --> 00:03:16,233 WHO WANTS COFFEE? 68 00:03:18,333 --> 00:03:20,267 - SO IS IT HELPING? 69 00:03:20,300 --> 00:03:22,167 - OH, YOU WOULDN'T BELIEVE THE DIFFERENCE. 70 00:03:22,200 --> 00:03:23,167 - REALLY? 71 00:03:23,200 --> 00:03:24,267 - FORGET THE COFFEE. 72 00:03:24,300 --> 00:03:27,700 HOW ABOUT SOME DRINKS, PUT ON SOME MUSIC? 73 00:03:27,733 --> 00:03:29,333 - YOU KNOW, IT'S SO GREAT TO BE ABLE 74 00:03:29,367 --> 00:03:31,233 TO TAKE OUR FIGHTS TO A THIRD PARTY. 75 00:03:31,267 --> 00:03:32,767 - YEAH, NOW I'VE ACTUALLY WON A FEW. 76 00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:33,600 [chuckles] 77 00:03:33,633 --> 00:03:36,267 OF COURSE, IT'S NOT ABOUT WINNING. 78 00:03:36,300 --> 00:03:37,933 - PAMELA'S TRYING TO HELP US UNDERSTAND 79 00:03:37,967 --> 00:03:40,867 THE DEEPER REASONS WHY WE FIGHT. 80 00:03:40,900 --> 00:03:42,633 - THAT IS SO IMPORTANT, BECAUSE-- 81 00:03:42,667 --> 00:03:44,133 - WHOA! WHOOPS! 82 00:03:44,167 --> 00:03:45,267 DROPPED A CUP. 83 00:03:45,300 --> 00:03:46,367 IT'S MY FAVORITE, 84 00:03:46,400 --> 00:03:50,967 SO HOW ABOUT A MOMENT OF SILENCE? 85 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:52,633 - I'LL HELP YOU. 86 00:03:52,667 --> 00:03:57,067 - ANYWAY, I REALLY THINK WE'RE COMMUNICATING BETTER. 87 00:03:57,100 --> 00:03:58,467 - OH, FOR SURE. 88 00:03:58,500 --> 00:04:00,600 NO, REALLY, BECAUSE I USED TO TRY TO DISCUSS SOMETHING, 89 00:04:00,633 --> 00:04:01,967 AND THIS ONE WOULD JUST SIT THERE 90 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:05,433 IN FRONT OF THE COMPUTER, LIKE, "UHH...IT'S GLOWING." 91 00:04:05,467 --> 00:04:08,433 [laughter] 92 00:04:08,467 --> 00:04:10,667 - WELL, I GUESS THAT'S JUST AN INSTINCTIVE RESPONSE 93 00:04:10,700 --> 00:04:13,267 TO THE YELLING. 94 00:04:13,300 --> 00:04:14,700 - WELL, YOU KNOW, IF I AM YELLING, 95 00:04:14,733 --> 00:04:16,633 IT'S JUST PROBABLY 'CAUSE I'VE ASKED HIM ALREADY 96 00:04:16,667 --> 00:04:20,167 TO TURN THE THING OFF LIKE TEN TIMES. 97 00:04:20,200 --> 00:04:21,667 [both sigh] 98 00:04:23,467 --> 00:04:25,367 - SO PAMELA'S BEEN GREAT. 99 00:04:26,933 --> 00:04:28,567 - YEAH, IT'S REALLY GREAT. 100 00:04:33,700 --> 00:04:34,700 - I'M SORRY, HONEY. 101 00:04:34,733 --> 00:04:39,133 I WAS JUST BEING KIND OF, UH, PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE. 102 00:04:43,900 --> 00:04:45,367 - YOU KNOW WHAT? I STARTED IT. 103 00:04:45,400 --> 00:04:47,767 I STARTED IT WITH MY LITTLE HIDDEN AGENDA 104 00:04:47,800 --> 00:04:50,267 ABOUT THE COMPUTER AND... 105 00:05:00,600 --> 00:05:01,767 - WOW. 106 00:05:03,933 --> 00:05:06,433 - WELL, OBVIOUSLY WE STILL HAVE A LITTLE WORK TO DO. 107 00:05:06,467 --> 00:05:08,367 - NO, BUT THE IMPORTANT THING IS YOU'RE DOING IT. 108 00:05:08,400 --> 00:05:10,300 THAT'S FANTAS-- [vacuum cleaner running] 109 00:05:28,200 --> 00:05:32,433 - I DON'T WANT TO GO TO COUNSELING! 110 00:05:32,467 --> 00:05:33,533 - WHAT? 111 00:05:33,567 --> 00:05:35,500 - I KNOW THAT AFTER WHAT BERNIE AND LINDA SAID THAT-- 112 00:05:35,533 --> 00:05:37,800 - YOU THINK I WANT US TO GO TO COUNSELING? 113 00:05:37,833 --> 00:05:40,433 - WHAT? YOU DON'T? 114 00:05:40,467 --> 00:05:44,067 - DO YOU THINK WE SHOULD GO BECAUSE OF BERNIE AND LINDA? 115 00:05:47,333 --> 00:05:49,333 - WHAT? NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO. 116 00:05:49,367 --> 00:05:50,733 I JUST--I JUST THOUGHT, YOU KNOW, 117 00:05:50,767 --> 00:05:52,733 'CAUSE THEY HAD THEIR LITTLE THING TONIGHT 118 00:05:52,767 --> 00:05:55,533 AND AFTER THEY WERE ALL HUGGY AND KISSY... 119 00:05:55,567 --> 00:06:01,133 BUT THAT'S ONLY BECAUSE THEY'RE DIFFERENT FROM US. 120 00:06:01,167 --> 00:06:03,833 THEIR FIGHT WAS ABOUT THE COMPUTER. 121 00:06:03,867 --> 00:06:07,567 OURS WAS ABOUT THE TV. 122 00:06:07,600 --> 00:06:11,933 AND THE TV HAS BEEN AROUND FOR YEARS. 123 00:06:11,967 --> 00:06:14,367 SO THAT'S VERY DIFFERENT. 124 00:06:15,600 --> 00:06:16,900 - WE'RE GOING TO COUNSELING. 125 00:06:16,933 --> 00:06:18,100 - NO! 126 00:06:18,133 --> 00:06:20,767 - I ALREADY GOT PAMELA'S NUMBER FROM LINDA. 127 00:06:20,800 --> 00:06:22,433 - I DON'T WANT TO GO TO COUNSELING! 128 00:06:22,467 --> 00:06:24,767 - RAY, WE FIGHT ALL THE TIME. 129 00:06:24,800 --> 00:06:25,900 - NO, NOT FIGHTS. 130 00:06:25,933 --> 00:06:27,900 TIFFS, LITTLE TIFFS. 131 00:06:27,933 --> 00:06:30,633 SWEETIE PIE, BABY... 132 00:06:30,667 --> 00:06:32,200 SKINNY GIRL! 133 00:06:32,233 --> 00:06:34,967 COME ON. NO, NO COUNSELING. 134 00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:36,767 - WHAT WOULD BE SO TERRIBLE ABOUT IT? 135 00:06:36,800 --> 00:06:37,900 - EVERYTHING. 136 00:06:37,933 --> 00:06:40,067 WHAT DO YOU THINK'S GONNA HAPPEN, WE'RE GONNA GO, 137 00:06:40,100 --> 00:06:41,567 AND THE NEXT DAY WE'RE GONNA GROW WINGS 138 00:06:41,600 --> 00:06:44,633 AND FLY AROUND GIVING EACH OTHER FOOT MASSAGES? 139 00:06:44,667 --> 00:06:46,933 - IT'S JUST GETTING A LITTLE HELP. 140 00:06:46,967 --> 00:06:48,067 - WE DON'T NEED HELP. 141 00:06:48,100 --> 00:06:50,167 - WHY DON'T WE LET PAMELA DECIDE THAT? 142 00:06:50,200 --> 00:06:51,667 - OH, YEAH, AND THEN THERE'S THAT. 143 00:06:51,700 --> 00:06:53,100 HMM...PAMELA... 144 00:06:53,133 --> 00:06:56,133 WONDER WHOSE SIDE SHE'S GONNA BE ON? 145 00:06:56,167 --> 00:06:58,000 - OKAY, SO WE CAN GO TO A MAN. 146 00:06:58,033 --> 00:06:59,600 - OH, YEAH. YEAH, RIGHT. 147 00:06:59,633 --> 00:07:04,233 "OH, YOU UNDERSTAND ME SO MUCH BETTER THAN MY HUSBAND." 148 00:07:07,533 --> 00:07:10,567 - AND YOU DON'T NEED THERAPY. 149 00:07:10,600 --> 00:07:12,267 - LOOK, ALL THESE THERAPIST PEOPLE WANT TO DO 150 00:07:12,300 --> 00:07:13,533 IS GET YOU TO CRY. 151 00:07:13,567 --> 00:07:15,800 - DON'T YOU WANT TO FIND THE DEEPER REASONS 152 00:07:15,833 --> 00:07:17,200 WHY WE FIGHT? 153 00:07:17,233 --> 00:07:19,100 DON'T YOU WANT TO HAVE A HEALTHIER MARRIAGE? 154 00:07:19,133 --> 00:07:20,333 - NOT IF I HAVE TO CRY. 155 00:07:20,367 --> 00:07:21,667 - IT'S NOT ABOUT THAT! 156 00:07:21,700 --> 00:07:23,533 IT'S ABOUT TRYING TO BE HAPPY. 157 00:07:23,567 --> 00:07:25,700 - BUT WE ARE HAPPY! LOOK AT US. 158 00:07:25,733 --> 00:07:27,133 I LOVE YOU. 159 00:07:27,167 --> 00:07:31,433 - GET OFF OF ME. GET! GET OFF OF ME. 160 00:07:31,467 --> 00:07:34,467 LISTEN, I AM MAKING AN APPOINTMENT FOR COUNSELING, 161 00:07:34,500 --> 00:07:35,567 AND YOU ARE COMING WITH ME, 162 00:07:35,600 --> 00:07:37,600 BECAUSE WE ARE GONNA DO WHATEVER IT TAKES 163 00:07:37,633 --> 00:07:41,000 TO HEAL THIS MARRIAGE. 164 00:07:45,300 --> 00:07:47,433 - STUPID MARRIAGE. 165 00:07:51,333 --> 00:07:52,433 - SO, RAY AND DEBRA, 166 00:07:52,467 --> 00:07:53,933 HOW LONG HAVE YOU TWO BEEN MARRIED? 167 00:07:53,967 --> 00:07:56,167 - THIRTEEN YEARS. 168 00:07:56,200 --> 00:08:00,767 - TRUE. SEE? NO ARGUMENT THERE. 169 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:02,467 - AND JUST GENERALLY SPEAKING, 170 00:08:02,500 --> 00:08:04,833 WHAT MADE YOU DECIDE TO COME HERE TODAY? 171 00:08:04,867 --> 00:08:11,433 - UM, WELL, THIS IS SOMETHING THAT'S LONG OVERDUE. 172 00:08:11,467 --> 00:08:13,067 - OKAY. 173 00:08:14,867 --> 00:08:17,767 WELL, THEN, DEBRA, WHY DON'T YOU START? 174 00:08:17,800 --> 00:08:19,833 - OKAY. 175 00:08:19,867 --> 00:08:22,200 UM... 176 00:08:22,233 --> 00:08:27,200 WELL, I JUST FEEL THAT I WORK VERY HARD 177 00:08:27,233 --> 00:08:30,200 TO KEEP THE HOUSE UP AND RUNNING, 178 00:08:30,233 --> 00:08:32,600 AND I GUESS I FEEL, YOU KNOW, 179 00:08:32,633 --> 00:08:38,533 KIND OF UNAPPRECIATED BECAUSE... 180 00:08:39,900 --> 00:08:42,100 [squeaks] 181 00:08:42,133 --> 00:08:45,900 I JUST... 182 00:08:45,933 --> 00:08:47,100 - HERE YOU GO. 183 00:08:47,133 --> 00:08:48,567 - THANK YOU. 184 00:08:51,367 --> 00:08:54,400 - RAY, HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT WHAT DEBRA'S EXPRESSING? 185 00:09:00,500 --> 00:09:02,633 - UH... 186 00:09:02,667 --> 00:09:04,767 I'M SORRY. 187 00:09:06,833 --> 00:09:08,633 - OKAY. 188 00:09:08,667 --> 00:09:10,800 ANYTHING ELSE? 189 00:09:10,833 --> 00:09:11,800 RAY? 190 00:09:11,833 --> 00:09:15,933 - OH, STILL ME? OKAY. 191 00:09:15,967 --> 00:09:19,100 WELL, UH... 192 00:09:19,133 --> 00:09:22,200 YOU KNOW, I JUST WANT TO SAY 193 00:09:22,233 --> 00:09:24,500 THAT, I MEAN, I WORK HARD TOO. 194 00:09:24,533 --> 00:09:27,000 AND, YOU KNOW, I COME HOME AND I'M TIRED, 195 00:09:27,033 --> 00:09:29,433 AND I JUST... 196 00:09:29,467 --> 00:09:31,533 I JUST... 197 00:09:41,633 --> 00:09:44,133 I'M NOT GONNA BE ABLE TO CRY LIKE THAT. 198 00:09:47,333 --> 00:09:49,033 - PAMELA, COULD I JUST SAY SOMETHING? 199 00:09:49,067 --> 00:09:50,133 - SURE. 200 00:09:50,167 --> 00:09:51,400 - JUST AS AN EXAMPLE, 201 00:09:51,433 --> 00:09:55,333 LAST WEEK, RAY CAME HOME LATE FROM GOLFING. 202 00:09:55,367 --> 00:09:58,233 AND I GUESS GOLF IS KIND OF A HOT-BUTTON ISSUE WITH ME, 203 00:09:58,267 --> 00:10:00,400 AND WE HAD A FIGHT. 204 00:10:00,433 --> 00:10:02,000 - RAY, DO YOU REMEMBER THIS? 205 00:10:02,033 --> 00:10:04,467 - I DO. I SHOT A 94. 206 00:10:10,233 --> 00:10:12,100 - GO AHEAD, DEBRA. 207 00:10:12,133 --> 00:10:13,933 - I HAD ALL THE KIDS, 208 00:10:13,967 --> 00:10:15,567 AND I WAS EXPECTING HIM HOME AT 2:00, 209 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:17,800 AND HE DIDN'T SHOW UP UNTIL 5:00. 210 00:10:17,833 --> 00:10:20,267 AND HIS EXPLANATION FOR WHY IT TOOK SO LONG 211 00:10:20,300 --> 00:10:25,200 WAS THAT HIS FRIEND GIANNI WANTED TO PET A DEER. 212 00:10:25,233 --> 00:10:26,367 AND THAT'S JUST INDICATIVE 213 00:10:26,400 --> 00:10:28,600 OF THE KIND OF THING THAT RAY ALWAYS DOES. 214 00:10:28,633 --> 00:10:31,400 AND I UNDERSTAND THAT WE NEED TIME TO OURSELVES, 215 00:10:31,433 --> 00:10:34,300 BUT WHAT REALLY BOTHERS ME IS THAT HE DOESN'T SEEM 216 00:10:34,333 --> 00:10:38,267 TO WANT TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR ANYTHING. 217 00:10:38,300 --> 00:10:41,600 I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE. 218 00:10:46,100 --> 00:10:47,300 - RAY? 219 00:10:53,633 --> 00:10:55,533 - SHE'S RIGHT. 220 00:10:55,567 --> 00:10:56,500 - WHAT? 221 00:10:56,533 --> 00:10:59,667 - SHE'S TOTALLY RIGHT BECAUSE, WELL... 222 00:10:59,700 --> 00:11:02,933 I'VE BEEN TERRIBLY INSENSITIVE WITH MY GOLF. 223 00:11:02,967 --> 00:11:05,067 I THINK I USE GOLF 224 00:11:05,100 --> 00:11:08,267 IN A ALMOST PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE WAY. 225 00:11:14,733 --> 00:11:15,667 - OKAY. 226 00:11:15,700 --> 00:11:18,367 - BUT YOU KNOW WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME? 227 00:11:18,400 --> 00:11:21,533 I KNOW IT'S A PROBLEM, I KNOW I HAVE TO CHANGE, 228 00:11:21,567 --> 00:11:23,467 BUT THE NEXT THING YOU KNOW, 229 00:11:23,500 --> 00:11:27,267 I'M BACK ON THE COURSE AGAIN. 230 00:11:27,300 --> 00:11:28,800 - BUT IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE WILLING 231 00:11:28,833 --> 00:11:34,300 TO LOOK AT YOUR BEHAVIOR, WHICH IS A VERY GOOD START. 232 00:11:36,533 --> 00:11:37,667 - WAIT. WHAT? 233 00:11:37,700 --> 00:11:40,100 - BUT I GOTTA TELL YOU, IT'S MORE THAN JUST THE GOLF. 234 00:11:40,133 --> 00:11:41,933 DEBRA IS LIKE A SAINT. 235 00:11:41,967 --> 00:11:45,000 YOU CAN'T BELIEVE THE THINGS SHE HAS TO PUT UP WITH. 236 00:11:45,033 --> 00:11:47,933 ONCE, I ACTUALLY TAPED A FOOTBALL GAME 237 00:11:47,967 --> 00:11:49,700 OVER OUR WEDDING VIDEO. 238 00:11:49,733 --> 00:11:51,900 - PAMELA, CAN I JUST-- 239 00:11:51,933 --> 00:11:55,367 - WAIT, HOLD ON, HOLD ON. LET'S LET RAY GET THIS OUT. 240 00:11:55,400 --> 00:11:57,533 - IT'S PROBABLY THE WORST THING A HUSBAND CAN DO, RIGHT? 241 00:11:57,567 --> 00:11:59,167 ALL I COULD THINK OF TO FIX IT 242 00:11:59,200 --> 00:12:01,833 WAS TO ARRANGE TO HAVE OUR WEDDING VOWS RENEWED. 243 00:12:01,867 --> 00:12:03,533 - THAT'S NICE. 244 00:12:03,567 --> 00:12:05,200 - I GUESS. 245 00:12:08,633 --> 00:12:11,000 ACTUALLY, I THINK THE WHOLE THING ENDED 246 00:12:11,033 --> 00:12:12,267 WITH US MAKING LOVE. 247 00:12:12,300 --> 00:12:14,467 - PAMELA, I THINK WE'RE GETTING A LITTLE OFF TRACK HERE. 248 00:12:14,500 --> 00:12:18,067 I MEAN, THIS ISN'T EXACTLY THE RAY I GET AT HOME, YOU KNOW? 249 00:12:18,100 --> 00:12:20,367 RIGHT NOW HE'S THE ONE BEING A SAINT. 250 00:12:20,400 --> 00:12:22,400 - WELL, LET'S TRY TO HAVE THE PERSPECTIVE 251 00:12:22,433 --> 00:12:25,100 THAT NEITHER ONE OF US IS A SAINT, OKAY? 252 00:12:25,133 --> 00:12:27,400 - YEAH, OKAY, SURE. 253 00:12:29,700 --> 00:12:32,267 - I'M SORRY THAT I CALLED HER A SAINT BEFORE. 254 00:12:34,533 --> 00:12:36,833 STUPID! 255 00:12:36,867 --> 00:12:39,867 - IT'S OKAY, RAYMOND. NO, YOU'RE DOING JUST FINE. 256 00:12:39,900 --> 00:12:44,133 OKAY, NOW, YOU TWO OBVIOUSLY HAVE ISSUES TO RESOLVE, 257 00:12:44,167 --> 00:12:45,533 BUT ONE THING TO KEEP IN MIND 258 00:12:45,567 --> 00:12:48,200 IS THAT HAVING OCCASIONAL ARGUMENTS IS NORMAL, 259 00:12:48,233 --> 00:12:49,733 AND IT'S EVEN HEALTHY. 260 00:12:49,767 --> 00:12:52,333 SO WHAT WE'LL DO IS, WE'LL TRY TO FIND OUT THE DEEPER REASONS 261 00:12:52,367 --> 00:12:56,200 WHY YOU ARGUE SO THAT WE CAN BEGIN TO CHANGE ANY-- 262 00:12:56,233 --> 00:13:01,300 ANY PARTICULARLY HARMFUL BEHAVIOR. 263 00:13:03,900 --> 00:13:06,400 - [sighs] 264 00:13:10,000 --> 00:13:13,367 - AND ONE THING THAT YOU'VE GOT GOING FOR YOU HERE 265 00:13:13,400 --> 00:13:15,033 IS AN ATTITUDE OF COOPERATION. 266 00:13:15,067 --> 00:13:17,900 BELIEVE ME, SOME PARTNERS HAVE TO BE DRAGGED INTO THIS 267 00:13:17,933 --> 00:13:19,367 KICKING AND SCREAMING. 268 00:13:19,400 --> 00:13:20,533 - WAIT A MINUTE. WAIT A MINUTE. 269 00:13:20,567 --> 00:13:22,333 - PAMELA, I'M GONNA DO WHATEVER IT TAKES 270 00:13:22,367 --> 00:13:25,100 TO HEAL THIS MARRIAGE. 271 00:13:37,233 --> 00:13:39,567 [TV playing] 272 00:13:39,600 --> 00:13:43,167 - OH, MY GOD. WHAT DID SHE SAY? IS THERE HOPE? 273 00:13:45,400 --> 00:13:47,767 - I TOLD YOU WE SHOULD HAVE SAID WE WENT TO A MOVIE. 274 00:13:47,800 --> 00:13:49,233 - COUNSELING, HUH? 275 00:13:49,267 --> 00:13:52,433 I CAME OVER AS SOON AS I HEARD. 276 00:13:54,167 --> 00:13:55,967 - SO, MARIE, ARE THE KIDS ASLEEP? 277 00:13:56,000 --> 00:13:57,567 - YES, AND I'M GONNA DO MY BEST 278 00:13:57,600 --> 00:14:00,700 TO MAKE SURE THEY REMAIN UNTRAUMATIZED. 279 00:14:02,633 --> 00:14:04,600 - I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU TWO WENT TO A SHRINK. 280 00:14:04,633 --> 00:14:07,733 HE'S THE ONE WITH THE PROBLEMS. 281 00:14:07,767 --> 00:14:10,000 - LET'S KEEP THIS ON RAYMOND, SHALL WE? 282 00:14:10,033 --> 00:14:11,633 PERSONALLY, DEB, I THINK IT'S ABOUT TIME 283 00:14:11,667 --> 00:14:13,333 THAT A NEUTRAL PARTY BE BROUGHT IN 284 00:14:13,367 --> 00:14:16,367 TO SET HIM STRAIGHT ON JUST HOW GREAT HE'S GOT IT. 285 00:14:16,400 --> 00:14:17,833 - WELL, THAT'S NOT WHAT HAPPENED, 286 00:14:17,867 --> 00:14:19,100 BECAUSE THE RAYMOND WE ALL KNOW 287 00:14:19,133 --> 00:14:21,100 DISAPPEARED AS SOON AS WE GOT THERE. 288 00:14:21,133 --> 00:14:23,167 - WHAT, WHAT? WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? 289 00:14:23,200 --> 00:14:24,733 - OH, YOU WERE OPEN AND CONSIDERATE 290 00:14:24,767 --> 00:14:26,600 AND WILLING TO LOOK AT YOUR OWN FAULTS. 291 00:14:26,633 --> 00:14:28,333 YOU MADE ME SICK! 292 00:14:31,233 --> 00:14:32,900 - EXCUSE ME, BUT I SPENT THE WHOLE TIME 293 00:14:32,933 --> 00:14:34,000 SAYING "I'M SORRY." 294 00:14:34,033 --> 00:14:35,167 WHAT MORE DO YOU WANT? 295 00:14:35,200 --> 00:14:38,233 - OH, YOU ARE SO FULL OF IT. 296 00:14:38,267 --> 00:14:41,600 - DO YOU MIND? 297 00:14:41,633 --> 00:14:42,567 LISTEN. 298 00:14:42,600 --> 00:14:44,333 - YOU MANIPULATED THE WHOLE THING. 299 00:14:44,367 --> 00:14:46,067 HOW DO YOU EXPECT TO MAKE ANY PROGRESS 300 00:14:46,100 --> 00:14:47,733 IF YOU GO IN THERE PLAYING A CHARACTER? 301 00:14:47,767 --> 00:14:49,233 - YOU'RE JUST MAD BECAUSE YOU WANTED ME 302 00:14:49,267 --> 00:14:50,867 TO GET BLAMED FOR EVERYTHING, AND PAMELA LIKED ME. 303 00:14:50,900 --> 00:14:53,433 - SHE DIDN'T LIKE YOU, 'CAUSE YOU WEREN'T THERE! 304 00:14:53,467 --> 00:14:56,700 - WHAT ARE YOU HIDING, MAN? WHAT'S IN THERE? 305 00:14:56,733 --> 00:14:59,167 - SOUNDS TO ME LIKE YOU DID GOOD, RAY. 306 00:14:59,200 --> 00:15:01,700 NAME, RANK, AND SERIAL NUMBER. 307 00:15:01,733 --> 00:15:06,767 NEVER OPEN UP. KEEP THE ENEMY IN THE DARK. 308 00:15:06,800 --> 00:15:09,067 - YOU'RE AN IGNORAMUS. 309 00:15:13,633 --> 00:15:18,100 IF ANYBODY EVER OPENED YOU UP, ALL THEY'D FIND IS MEAT. 310 00:15:23,433 --> 00:15:26,600 - NO SON OF MINE NEEDS COUNSELING, 311 00:15:26,633 --> 00:15:28,533 EXCEPT THE BIG ONE. 312 00:15:35,233 --> 00:15:37,533 - YOU DIDN'T GO IN THERE TO FIND OUT WHAT'S WRONG WITH US. 313 00:15:37,567 --> 00:15:39,200 YOU WENT IN THERE TO FIND OUT WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME. 314 00:15:39,233 --> 00:15:41,567 YOU CAN FIGURE IT OUT YOURSELF 'CAUSE I'M NOT GOING BACK. 315 00:15:41,600 --> 00:15:43,033 - OH, YES, YOU ARE. - NO, NO WAY. 316 00:15:43,067 --> 00:15:44,900 YOU HEARD HER YOURSELF. SHE SAID WE WERE NORMAL. 317 00:15:44,933 --> 00:15:48,033 - SHE DIDN'T SAY THAT. WHAT ROOM WERE YOU IN? 318 00:15:48,067 --> 00:15:49,200 - HEY, INSTEAD OF YELLING AT ME, 319 00:15:49,233 --> 00:15:51,200 SHOULDN'T YOU BE WORRIED ABOUT THE DEEPER REASONS 320 00:15:51,233 --> 00:15:52,667 BEHIND HOW YOU'RE REACTING? 321 00:15:52,700 --> 00:15:54,733 - I THINK YOU BETTER WORRY ABOUT HOW I'M REACTING. 322 00:15:54,767 --> 00:15:56,500 - HARMFUL BEHAVIOR! HARMFUL BEHAVIOR! 323 00:15:56,533 --> 00:15:58,400 - YOU'RE JUST A BIG PHONY, AND YOU KNOW IT! 324 00:15:58,433 --> 00:16:00,067 - OH, I WISH PAMELA COULD SEE YOU NOW! 325 00:16:00,100 --> 00:16:01,700 - OKAY, OKAY, OKAY. 326 00:16:01,733 --> 00:16:03,200 [Debra and Raymond yelling] 327 00:16:03,233 --> 00:16:06,767 - ALL RIGHT. COME ON, STOP IT, YOU TWO. 328 00:16:06,800 --> 00:16:08,700 - I GOTTA SAY, 329 00:16:08,733 --> 00:16:11,467 THE COUNSELING DOESN'T SEEM TO BE WORKING. 330 00:16:13,667 --> 00:16:16,967 - NOW, I WANT YOU TO SIT DOWN, AND LET'S TRY TO TALK THIS OUT. 331 00:16:17,000 --> 00:16:18,500 - MARIE, I AM NOT SITTING DOWN-- 332 00:16:18,533 --> 00:16:19,433 - PLEASE, DEBRA. 333 00:16:19,467 --> 00:16:21,600 I MAY NOT BE A CERTIFIED THERAPIST, 334 00:16:21,633 --> 00:16:26,367 BUT I'VE BEEN TOLD BY MANY PEOPLE THAT I COULD BE. 335 00:16:32,467 --> 00:16:33,533 - THAT'S NOT WHAT THEY MEAN 336 00:16:33,567 --> 00:16:37,167 WHEN THEY SAY YOU'RE CERTIFIABLE. 337 00:16:39,033 --> 00:16:40,300 - I HAPPEN TO BE VERY GOOD 338 00:16:40,333 --> 00:16:42,533 AT THINGS RELATING TO FEELINGS. 339 00:16:42,567 --> 00:16:45,533 I MEAN, I'VE BEEN MARRIED FOR 45 YEARS, 340 00:16:45,567 --> 00:16:47,267 AND IF THERE'S ONE THING I UNDERSTAND, 341 00:16:47,300 --> 00:16:51,067 IT'S HOW AWFUL A HUSBAND CAN BE. 342 00:16:51,100 --> 00:16:53,467 - OKAY. 343 00:16:53,500 --> 00:16:54,400 - RAYMOND. 344 00:16:54,433 --> 00:16:57,100 - NO, NO, YOU'RE ON HER SIDE. 345 00:16:57,133 --> 00:16:58,500 LISTEN, BERNIE AND LINDA CAME IN 346 00:16:58,533 --> 00:17:00,200 AND THEY SAID THEY WENT TO COUNSELING, 347 00:17:00,233 --> 00:17:02,000 AND SHE GOT IT IN HER HEAD THAT WE SHOULD GO, 348 00:17:02,033 --> 00:17:03,833 AND WE DON'T NEED TO. 349 00:17:03,867 --> 00:17:05,500 - OH, POOR RAYMOND. 350 00:17:05,533 --> 00:17:09,600 NEVER LEARNED HOW TO GET ALONG WITH OTHER HUMAN BEINGS. 351 00:17:09,633 --> 00:17:10,500 - BE QUIET, ROBBIE. 352 00:17:10,533 --> 00:17:12,000 - YEAH, SHUT UP. - NO, YOU SHUT UP. 353 00:17:12,033 --> 00:17:14,067 - ASS. - ASS! 354 00:17:16,033 --> 00:17:17,633 - QUIET! 355 00:17:27,333 --> 00:17:30,133 DEBRA, DID YOU WANT TO GO TO COUNSELING 356 00:17:30,167 --> 00:17:31,300 BECAUSE OF BERNIE AND LINDA? 357 00:17:31,333 --> 00:17:33,367 - NO, OF COURSE NOT. I MEAN, LOOK AT HOW WE FIGHT. 358 00:17:33,400 --> 00:17:36,833 THE VERY MORNING THEY CAME OVER, WE WERE FIGHTING. 359 00:17:36,867 --> 00:17:38,567 - AND WHAT DO YOU FIGHT ABOUT? 360 00:17:38,600 --> 00:17:41,533 - ABOUT HOW NUTS SHE GOES CLEANING WHEN PEOPLE COME OVER. 361 00:17:41,567 --> 00:17:44,167 ALL I WANT TO DO IS RELAX FOR ONCE AND WATCH A LITTLE TV, 362 00:17:44,200 --> 00:17:47,767 AND SHE ASKED ME TO SHAMPOO THE RUG. 363 00:17:47,800 --> 00:17:50,167 - WHAT? 364 00:17:50,200 --> 00:17:52,733 YOU CAN'T HELP OUT A LITTLE? 365 00:17:54,967 --> 00:17:57,700 - WHAT? YOU DON'T HELP OUT. 366 00:17:57,733 --> 00:17:59,333 - ASS. 367 00:18:02,067 --> 00:18:03,200 - YES. 368 00:18:03,233 --> 00:18:04,267 - JUST TO BE CLEAR, 369 00:18:04,300 --> 00:18:05,767 WHEN I WANT MY HOME TO LOOK NICE, 370 00:18:05,800 --> 00:18:08,000 IS THERE ANYTHING WRONG WITH ASKING RAY TO HELP ME? 371 00:18:08,033 --> 00:18:09,733 - THAT'S CERTAINLY VALID. 372 00:18:09,767 --> 00:18:11,733 AND, RAYMOND, YOU OF ALL PEOPLE SHOULD KNOW 373 00:18:11,767 --> 00:18:13,733 THAT IF YOU WANT YOUR HOUSE TO LOOK NICE, 374 00:18:13,767 --> 00:18:16,267 DEBRA NEEDS HELP. 375 00:18:20,400 --> 00:18:23,233 - LISTEN, CAN'T I SOMETIMES WATCH A LITTLE TV? 376 00:18:23,267 --> 00:18:24,767 I MEAN, WHAT'S WRONG WITH THAT? 377 00:18:24,800 --> 00:18:26,000 - ALSO VALID. 378 00:18:26,033 --> 00:18:28,933 AND, DEBRA, IT'S IMPORTANT FOR YOU TO KEEP IN MIND 379 00:18:28,967 --> 00:18:30,933 THAT RAYMOND IS A VERY HARD WORKER 380 00:18:30,967 --> 00:18:32,567 AND SOMETIMES NEEDS TO RELAX. 381 00:18:32,600 --> 00:18:35,300 - OF COURSE, BUT WHY IS IT SUCH A BATTLE 382 00:18:35,333 --> 00:18:37,233 TO GET YOU TO DO ANYTHING? 383 00:18:37,267 --> 00:18:38,733 - I DON'T KNOW. 384 00:18:40,233 --> 00:18:41,833 - THAT'S WHY I WANT TO GO TO COUNSELING. 385 00:18:41,867 --> 00:18:44,567 I DON'T THINK IT'S THAT YOU'RE JUST LAZY. 386 00:18:44,600 --> 00:18:47,167 I THINK THERE'S A DEEPER REASON BEHIND THIS, 387 00:18:47,200 --> 00:18:48,500 AND IF WE COULD JUST FIGURE IT OUT, 388 00:18:48,533 --> 00:18:49,633 YOU AND I COULD BE HAPPIER. 389 00:18:49,667 --> 00:18:52,000 - COME ON, YOU KNOW ME. THERE'S NOT MUCH DEEPNESS. 390 00:18:52,033 --> 00:18:53,733 I JUST--I LIKE TO BE TAKEN CARE OF. 391 00:18:53,767 --> 00:18:56,767 - BUT YOU GOTTA UNDERSTAND, RAY, THAT THAT'S NOT A WIFE; 392 00:18:56,800 --> 00:18:58,067 THAT'S A MOTHER. 393 00:18:58,100 --> 00:19:00,633 - WELL, MAYBE THAT'S WHAT I WANT. 394 00:19:11,167 --> 00:19:14,167 - HOLY CRAP! 395 00:19:20,467 --> 00:19:22,267 - NO, NO, ON THE CONTRARY, DAD, 396 00:19:22,300 --> 00:19:26,133 I THINK WE'VE MADE QUITE A BREAKTHROUGH. 397 00:19:26,167 --> 00:19:27,567 - NO. NO, NO. 398 00:19:27,600 --> 00:19:30,433 - OH, NO, NO, IT'S VERY SIMPLE, REALLY. 399 00:19:30,467 --> 00:19:32,767 YOU SEE, APPARENTLY THE DEEP REASONS 400 00:19:32,800 --> 00:19:34,033 BEHIND THE FIGHTS 401 00:19:34,067 --> 00:19:37,133 IS THAT YOU WISHED YOU MARRIED YOUR MOTHER. 402 00:19:37,167 --> 00:19:38,433 - THAT'S NOT WHAT I SAID. 403 00:19:38,467 --> 00:19:40,367 - YES, YOU DID. 404 00:19:41,667 --> 00:19:44,467 - WHY WOULD I SAY THAT? 405 00:19:51,267 --> 00:19:53,200 - RAYMOND, RAYMOND, 406 00:19:53,233 --> 00:19:56,267 THERE'S NOTHING WRONG IN WHAT YOU JUST SAID. 407 00:19:56,300 --> 00:19:58,867 - PLEASE STOP, MA! STOP! 408 00:19:58,900 --> 00:20:02,267 LISTEN, THAT'S-- THAT'S NOT WHAT I MEANT TO SAY. 409 00:20:02,300 --> 00:20:03,700 DEBRA, COULD YOU CALL PAMELA 410 00:20:03,733 --> 00:20:07,100 AND SEE IF SHE HAS AN OPENING FOR RIGHT NOW? 411 00:20:07,133 --> 00:20:09,333 - MAYBE SHE COULD MOVE IN. 412 00:20:09,367 --> 00:20:12,167 - I THINK IT'S GETTING KIND OF LATE, EVERYBODY. 413 00:20:12,200 --> 00:20:13,567 RAY, YOU WANT TO GO UP? 414 00:20:13,600 --> 00:20:15,967 - WE SHOULD-- WE SHOULD CALL PAMELA, RIGHT? 415 00:20:16,000 --> 00:20:18,800 - UH, NO, I THINK SOME THINGS ARE BETTER LEFT UNEXPLORED. 416 00:20:18,833 --> 00:20:20,667 - BECAUSE I'M SICK. THAT'S SICK WHAT I SAID. 417 00:20:20,700 --> 00:20:22,600 - NO, NO. I THINK YOU ARE JUST LAZY. 418 00:20:22,633 --> 00:20:25,433 - YOU THINK SO? THAT'S IT. YEAH, I'M A LAZY GUY. 419 00:20:26,600 --> 00:20:28,533 - SWEET DREAMS. 420 00:20:28,567 --> 00:20:31,700 YOU WANT MOMMY TO TUCK YOU IN? 421 00:20:40,600 --> 00:20:41,367 - HEY. 422 00:20:41,400 --> 00:20:43,767 - HEY. WHAT DO YOU WANT? 423 00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:45,067 - AH, NOTHING. 424 00:20:45,100 --> 00:20:46,500 I WAS JUST FEELING A LITTLE GUILTY 425 00:20:46,533 --> 00:20:49,300 OVER MY LAUGHING AT YOUR PREDICAMENT YESTERDAY. 426 00:20:49,333 --> 00:20:50,400 - WELL, YOU KNOW, WHATEVER. 427 00:20:50,433 --> 00:20:51,900 I MEAN, DEBRA AND I TALKED IT OUT. 428 00:20:51,933 --> 00:20:53,633 WE'RE FINE NOW. 429 00:20:53,667 --> 00:20:54,767 - THAT'S GOOD. 430 00:20:54,800 --> 00:20:55,700 - THAT'S GOOD, 'CAUSE, YOU KNOW, I WAS THINKING ABOUT IT, 431 00:20:55,733 --> 00:20:57,667 AND THE TRUTH IS, IT'S GOOD THAT YOU GUYS 432 00:20:57,700 --> 00:20:59,333 ACKNOWLEDGED THAT YOU HAD A PROBLEM 433 00:20:59,367 --> 00:21:01,967 AND YOU TOOK THE RIGHT STEPS TO DEAL WITH IT. 434 00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:04,467 MAYBE I SHOULD HAVE DONE THAT WHEN I WAS MARRIED, HUH? 435 00:21:04,500 --> 00:21:06,033 - HMM. 436 00:21:06,067 --> 00:21:08,900 ALL RIGHT, WELL, THANKS. THANKS, MAN. 437 00:21:08,933 --> 00:21:10,900 - ALL RIGHT, LOOK, I KNOW YOU'RE FEELING BAD, 438 00:21:10,933 --> 00:21:13,167 SO I GOT YOU SOMETHING. 439 00:21:29,900 --> 00:21:32,533 ENJOY, YOU SICK BASTARD.