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Welcome back to Tool Time
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Now, when selecting your wood for your
deck, you want to use cedar or redwood,
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'cause they won't rot or decay
from the moisture.
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That's also why poplar is quite "poplar."
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And once you finish that deck,
you've got your springtime there.
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It's spring, Klaus.
How about some springtime?
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(birds chirping/Tim sighs)
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Spring, nice weather, the birds...
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Hey, hey, hey!
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You get your deck finished, you just
kick back and enjoy the fruits of your labor.
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- Right, Al?
- I wouldn't know, Tim.
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You're fruiting, I'm still laboring.
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Anyway, Al, as you can see, is bracing
and blocking in between the joists here.
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That's right.
And if you use this procedure,
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your deck will be able to support
a great deal of weight.
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As many as 12 party guests
and a barbecue.
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Or my mother-in-law.
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Now, next week there'll be no more
Nana jokes about her weight.
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Because they're cheap
and easy, and I'm above that.
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And she's coming to town next week.
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But that's next week. So this week
it's open season on that wildebeest.
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Al, did I tell you the time that
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Nana didn't shave her chin for three days,
and two bison followed her home?
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(moos)
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Tim, I believe our show today
is about decks.
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That's right. And I certainly
know my way around a deck.
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Let's get into
the construction technique, can we?
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Now, the footing here holds the post.
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The post is connected to the beam.
The beam is connected to the joist.
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The joist is connected to the hipbone.
The hipbone's connected to the thighbone.
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- Al, take it. Come on, buddy.
- Not in this life, Tim.
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And once you get your deck finished,
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it's solid enough
even Nana could jump on this thing.
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Tim, you don't... No, you don't...
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Binford Sealant.
You can pick it up at your local store.
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(Jill) Well, what do you think?
Could we put the kids in the middle?
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- Hi, Mom. Is Nana here yet?
- No, not yet.
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Don't put your books on the table!
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Don't walk on the floor,
I just mopped it.
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Hi, guys.
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- Freeze.
- Oh, lady, lady. Come on.
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All the dust I have is in my back pocket,
right there.
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I got a little extra lint
in my bellybutton.
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I've just mopped the floor. I don't want
you to walk on it. Take off your shoes.
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Hey, guys,
take all of that stuff upstairs and hide it.
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(whistles)
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Every time your mom comes here,
you turn into Helga the psycho-cleaner.
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I do not.
I'm just tidying up a bit.
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Don't touch that.
You're gonna get fingerprints all over it.
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How do you see
out of the back of your head?
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And don't laugh
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at all those embarrassing stories
my mother tells when she gets here.
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They're not really embarrassing.
Some of them are really kinda funny.
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My favorite is when you dove off
the high-dive as a kid,
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and the top of your bathing suit came off
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and the lifeguards were using them
as a slingshot.
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(makes twanging noises)
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Oh, boy.
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That wasn't funny at all.
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You see, this is just what I mean. Mom
always thinks that stuff like that is funny.
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And if she knew anything about me, she'd
realize that those stories are painful to me.
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If they're so painful,
why don't you just tell her that?
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I can't tell my mother.
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(imitates her)
Why can't you tell your mother?
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It's old stuff, Tim, you know?
Just stay out of it, OK?
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All right, all right. I'm neutral.
I'm Switzerland. I have no opinion.
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- Hi, Dad.
- Buddy.
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What's Nana gonna get me
for my birthday?
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Well, I don't know, honey.
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You're just gonna have to
wait and see when she gets here.
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Birthday boy.
Or should I say birthday man?
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A year older. That peach fuzz
is turning into a little five o'clock shadow.
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(both grunt)
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I ordered the balloons
and the pinata today.
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Well, cancel the order.
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This kid is the big 0-8.
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Halfway to driving age.
I'm thinking...
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Indy 500 birthday.
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Checkered flags, maybe food...
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Ah, I'm starting to get it. We could
make a cake in the shape of a car.
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Racecar cake. Oh!
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Penske Lola chassis, titanium valves
and all that stuff. Kevlar tub.
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(both grunt)
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Come on, honey. Join in.
Let's grunt as a family.
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(all grunt)
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(doorbell rings)
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That's my mom. Brad - Randy - Mark!
Go and comb your hair.
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Tim?
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- I have no opinion.
- Good.
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She's a little early.
I didn't have time to widen the doorframe.
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No more fat jokes.
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Tim, Tim!
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- Ta-da!
- Whoa!
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Where's the rest of you?
Are you coming in shifts?
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- Mom!
- Ta-da!
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You didn't tell me you lost all that weight.
Are you all right?
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Oh, I'm fine.
I wanted to surprise you.
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- Well, you did. Mom, you look sensational.
- Oh, thank you.
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- Well?
- (Nana) Well, well...
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You do look sensational. I can't remember
being able to hug you and touch my hand.
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- Well, here, come on. Sit down.
- Here, I'll take your coat.
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All right, thank you. Oh, my, Jill.
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Oh, honey. This looks very nice.
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Well, thank you.
I didn't even have time to clean.
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Oh. How is that new job going?
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It's good, it's great.
You know, it's just that
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it's kinda hard 'cause I have to juggle the
kids, and the job, and the time is always...
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Oh, well. Life is hard.
You just have to buck up and do it.
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Right. Right.
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Well, Mom, you really...
you look amazing.
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Oh, well, thank you, honey.
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- I owe it all to Tim.
- How's that?
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Those Nana jokes on Tool Time were the
best motivation a fat person could have.
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What jokes?
I wouldn't make jokes about you on the air.
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- Oh, you wouldn't, would you?
- No.
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Well, does this sound familiar?
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What weighs 400lbs 2oz
and sings in the shower?
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Nana holding a bar of soap.
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That's funny, though.
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- Did you tell her I said that?
- No.
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You don't get Tool Time in Texas.
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- We bought a satellite dish.
- Oh.
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All the neighbors...
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All the neighbors come over
to watch the show.
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- Dad and I are real celebrities.
- Hey, good.
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Yes. Of course,
I tell everyone my son-in-law is Al.
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Do you want something to drink?
Shot and a beer?
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Oh, Tim. Those days are over.
It's grapefruit juice for me from now on.
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All right.
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Nothing for me, Tim.
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Hey, guys, come on down here. Hustle up.
Half your grandma showed up.
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- Well, I'm sorry that Daddy couldn't come.
- Oh, well. You know the colonel.
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He had to make one of his
boring speeches at the officers' club.
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Well, it really... it is just incredible
how great you look. It's just great.
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Oh, well, thank you, honey.
You know, it's really a simple diet.
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I have a copy of it in the car.
All it takes is a little willpower.
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- Nana!
- Ooh, there's my boys.
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- Whoa, you're skinny.
- Oh, well, thank you.
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- All right, fall in. Ten-hut.
- (all) Hut.
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At ease, men.
Now give me some sugar.
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Oh, Mark.
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My birthday boy.
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Randy, sweetie pie.
Best sugar in town, right here.
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Oh, Brad, you handsome thing.
How many dates have you had lately?
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- No, Mom. He's too young to date.
- Oh, well, won't be long now.
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Oh, Jill, I remember your first date.
It was Jake Tyler. He got...
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- Mom, nobody wants to hear this story.
- Yeah, we do! Yeah!
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- I think we should hear it.
- (Brad) Jake Tyler.
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- Actually, I have no opinion.
- Oh, Jill, I can just see you.
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You had on that lime-green miniskirt
that showed your cute little pudgy knees.
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I didn't have pudgy knees!
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But she was so nervous that night,
instead of deodorant,
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she sprayed on insect repellent!
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It was only under one arm.
It's not that funny.
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It's not that funny.
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But maybe next time
you should just hang a No-Pest strip.
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- Did you bring us any candy?
- Candy? Well, what do you think?
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Mom, Mom, please.
Not before dinner.
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Oh, your mother's right.
But I do have a surprise for you.
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There are presents for everyone
out in the car. Go get 'em.
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I saw that.
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Well, one little candy bar won't hurt them.
Isn't that right, Tim?
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I have no opinion.
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Oh, Jill. I can't wait for you
to see what I got for you.
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- For me?
- Yes.
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Since Dad and I
are moving into that new condo,
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I've decided to give you and your sisters
some things from the house.
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Oh, I've picked out something
that I know has special meaning for you.
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Oh, I wonder if those boys
can handle that box.
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- (Tim) I'll get it, Mom.
- No. No. Better not. It's breakable.
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Something breakable.
Something that has meaning.
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- Oh, gosh, I hope it's that clock.
- Which clock?
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You know, that beautiful
antique wood clock they have?
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The one that has that stupid chime
that wakes me when we stay there?
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I love that clock. You know,
when Daddy was moving us around
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from base to base
and house to house all the time,
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no matter where we were, when I heard
that clock, I always knew that I was home.
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All right. Thanks a lot, Brad.
Put it on the table, honey.
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- Be careful, boys.
- Guess what's in these boxes.
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Nana got Mark
a drum set for his birthday.
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Yeah. Guys, let's go
beat on them upstairs.
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Drums?
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You... you got him drums?
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- Lillian, do you really hate me that much?
- Yes.
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Oh. Jill, I know you've
had your eye on this for a long time.
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Oh, Mom! Whenever I look at it I'm just...
I'm gonna think of...
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tea. It's a tea set.
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- That's right. Yeah.
- Who's the rest of this stuff for?
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Oh, the candlesticks are for Katie,
and the clock is for Robin.
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Robin.
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Well, I-I hope that she loves it
as much as I love this.
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- Oh, good, honey.
- (drumming)
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Ooh, I hear music.
I'm going up to see my little Buddy Rich.
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Nice tea set. It's really... it's...
That's chipped. What a shame.
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That means it's antique. And that's good.
It's no reason to be upset.
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I'm not upset. I just thought that
she should know how I feel about the clock.
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- Why don't you tell her?
- Can't.
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Yes, you can.
"Mom, I want the clock."
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That's not how we do things
in my family.
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We don't talk about our feelings.
You know that.
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Yes, I do know that. And this happens
every time your mom comes to visit.
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And where does she get off,
losing all that weight?
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You said she looks spectacular.
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Feeds me chicken, fried steak
and gravy for 20 years.
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- Shows up here all thin, with drums.
- Oh.
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Tells me my house looks..."nice."
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You know, I know what's going on here.
You know what's going on here?
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- You know exactly what's go...
- What, Tim?
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I have no opinion.
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There, now.
I think that looks lovely.
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Yeah. Now we have a tea set, but we
don't know what teatime is without a clock.
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Lillian, do you know what time it is?
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- No, I didn't put on my watch today.
- Gosh darn it.
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There's a clock
right here on the oven, Tim.
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I know, but those oven clocks are so small.
What we need is a big old antique clock.
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Go to London.
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- Mom, what are you doing there?
- I'm slicing marshmallows for the tires.
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Well, no. The tires are gonna
be those chocolate doughnuts.
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Oh. Well, then the marshmallows
can be the hubcaps.
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No. The peppermint candies
are gonna be the hubcaps.
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I thought the marshmallows
were gonna be the shock absorbers.
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Did anybody ask your opinion?
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I have no opinion.
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- Hi-ho, Tim.
- Hi, Wilson.
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- Boy, you are just the man I wanna see.
- Yeah?
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I've got a birthday present for Mark.
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Oh, that's nice of you, but I don't think
I want to pierce his ears so early.
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No, no, no, no, no, Tim.
It's not an earring. It's a dream catcher.
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Children of the Chippewa Indians
hang them in their window at night
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to catch the bad dreams.
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Then in the morning
the sunshine whisks the bad dreams away.
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You got anything
that'll whisk a mother-in-law away?
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- Nana problems, Tim?
- Nah, nah.
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It's Jill.
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She thinks her mom doesn't understand
her, but she never tells her how she feels,
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so her mom doesn't really understand
that she doesn't understand.
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- I understand.
- What is it with women?
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Her mom brought gifts. She gave Jill a tea
set and gave her sister Robin this clock.
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Well, Jill wants the clock.
Why can't she just say, "I want the clock"?
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Well, Tim, these are complicated things
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and it has been a few years since I read
My Mother. My Self
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(whistles)
Whoa, whoa. Whoa, whoa, whoa.
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Back the bookmobile up.
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You read a book called
My Mother/My Self?
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It was the '70s, Tim.
It was an open time.
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I remember the '70s.
Mood rings... eight-track cassettes.
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You see, Tim, once the baby girl
comes out of the mother's womb,
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she spends the rest of her life
trying to separate from her.
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They are separate.
They live in different states.
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No, no. No, Tim,
I'm talking about emotional separation.
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You see, subconsciously, Jill may feel
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that if she doesn't want
what her mother gives her,
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she's being disloyal
to the person who gave her life.
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What? Why do women get so confused
about this stuff?
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I lived in a family of all boys. We were
very clear about our communication.
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If I wanted something my brother had,
I'd knock him down and take it.
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Well, that's very effective, but crude.
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Right. You know,
I think I could help these two ladies out.
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If I could just sit them down
and tell them exactly what's going on.
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No, no, no, Tim.
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Throughout history, many truths
have passed from man to man,
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and the one truth
that transcends all cultures is:
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"When mother-in-law visits,
man should stay in garage."
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I got a lot of work to do on the hot rod.
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Might as well just close the door
and start her up. (grunts)
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Oh, Lillian, you've finished the cake.
Mark's gonna love that. It's beautiful.
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Tim, I want to talk to you about Jill.
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- I think she's upset.
- I'm going to the garage.
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She ate up all the hubcaps,
and then she went upstairs.
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I gotta do some work on the hot rod, OK?
Please? Please?
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- Tim.
- Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh...
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- Tim.
- (groans)
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I think I know why Jill is so tense.
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- You do?
- Yes.
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So she shared her feelings with you?
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- Well, not in so many words.
- Well?
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- But I think it's pretty clear...
- Uh-huh?
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...that you two
are having intimacy problems.
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(clunk)
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What? No. No. No.
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It's nothing to be embarrassed about. This
sort of thing can happen after 15 years.
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Stop... Don't... Come on...
Put it... Here, here.
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I'm still happening.
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Well, all right,
but if you and Jill are having problems...
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It's not between me and Jill.
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It's between you and Jill.
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What are you talking about?
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She doesn't want the tea set,
she wants the clock.
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- The clock?
- Yeah.
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- Well, why didn't she just tell me?
- Well, I just don't know.
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It's a mother-daughter
emotional separation thing, or something.
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I came from a family of all guys.
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We were very clear
about our emotional separations.
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I hit my brother, I laugh, he cries.
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What?
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I can't explain it. You gotta read the book
Hey. Mother. I'm Selfish
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- Go!
- Go, Tiffany!
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Tim, can you help me
with the hamburgers?
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- In a minute, in a minute, all right?
- I'll help you, Jill.
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I'm gaining on you now.
I'm gaining on you! I'm gaining...
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- I win!
- (cheering)
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- Dad, she beat you again.
- I got eyes, pal.
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Sorry, Mr. Taylor.
I didn't mean to win.
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Don't get cocky, OK? You're not
champion around here until you win...
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five out of nine.
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Hey. You better start losing real quick
or else you're gonna be here all night.
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(whistles) Junior.
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OK, here we go.
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Three, two... Is that a dolly?
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One.
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Jill, why didn't you tell me
you wanted that clock?
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I don't want that clock.
Who said I wanted the clock?
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Tim told me.
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- He wasn't supposed to get involved.
- Well, I charmed it out of him.
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It's no big deal, Mom.
It doesn't matter.
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Well, apparently it is.
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He says that we don't talk,
that we don't share feelings.
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Now, that's not true, is it?
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Well, in a way, Mom.
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I mean, you're always the one
that's saying we shouldn't get emotional.
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When did I ever say anything like that?
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- All the time.
- When?
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OK. For example...
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There was that time in Virginia.
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I was playing in the sandbox
and you came up to tell me
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that we were moving for the third time
in two years, and I started to cry.
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And you said, "Don't get emotional.
Crying isn't going to help."
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"We're a military family,
this is who we are."
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Well, I'm sorry, honey,
but I don't remember that.
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It was an important conversation, Mom.
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Jill, I had five daughters.
There were lots of important conversations.
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Well, of course you're right.
I'm sorry I brought it up.
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All right. Now, you just
hold it right there, young lady.
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Now, all that moving was hard on
the whole family, and your father knew that.
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Seeing us upset
would have made things worse for him.
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We all had to be good little soldiers.
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Yeah. Yeah, I remember all that
"good little soldier" stuff.
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Having to keep the house
in perfect shape.
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Lining us up in our perfect little dresses
with all the other officers' kids.
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Yes, that's right.
We were mean, lean and clean.
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But we had fun, too.
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You and your sisters played hopscotch
and jacks just like all the other little girls.
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You and I had our teatime.
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- We had our what?
- Teatime.
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We'd have tea and cookies, but I'd tell you
we were having tea and crumpets.
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Then when your father came home
you'd tell him we had tea and puppets.
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"Tea and puppets"? I said that?
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That is so cute.
How could you stand me?
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Sometimes I couldn't.
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So that's why you wanted
me to have the tea set?
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Well, yes. I...
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I know you look at that tea set and you see
some old cups and a chipped saucer,
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but I look at that tea set and I see you.
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I'm sorry, Mom.
I... just didn't remember.
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Well, whichever gift you want
is fine with me, dear.
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Well, now I want both.
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Jillian Patterson,
you have to share with your sisters.
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I don't know why you had to give me
so many sisters anyway.
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Oh, hush.
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(shouts of encouragement)
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Yay!
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Hey, Dad, she beat you again.
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- That was pretty lame.
- Hang it up, old man.
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Can I go play with my friends now?
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You know,
you're starting to tick me off a little bit.
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Championship round.
One more race. Winner take all.
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But I think I blew the motor in my car.
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So I've got a little secret weapon
down here that I built.
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- Hey, what's that, Dad?
- I took the motor out of the DustBuster.
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All right, ready? Winner take all.
Last race. Three, two, one, go!
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(woman) This time when you cheer,
you can make noise.
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What a novel idea.
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Have we ever worked with children
before here?
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(woman) Five, four, three, two.
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- No, no, Tim.
- What?
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- (girl) It's your line.
- (woman) Don't get cocky, Tim.